Added by on October 31, 2011

Top Five Reasons To Not Over-Parent

It may be one of the toughest things for parents to understand but it could be one of the most critical factors to successful parenting.

Helicoptering is the newest trend to hit the streets of parenthood. Popping up in the baby-booomer generation, helicopter parenting describes a new style of raising children by sheltering and micromanaging their lives. The world we live in today can be a dangerous one and because of that many parents instill the notion of “stranger danger” in their kids early on. However, in recent years it has gone far beyond the fear of their child’s face on the 6 o’clock news due to some horrific tragedy. Nowadays, parents are worrying about far more than just safety and well-being.

While it’s perfectly natural to take an interest in your children’s safety and success, obsessing over potential dangers lurking around the corner, as well as stressing over their future, can be detrimental for young adults once they attempt to leave the nest.

Here are five reasons why letting go of the leash can be a healthy choice for your children as well as for you.

  1. Children are more likely to succeed
  2. It will make you a better parent
  3. Strengthen the relationship
  4. Stress isn’t helping your health
  5. Turn the tables

Children are more likely to succeed
Show them that you’re confident in their decisions. Guide them in the right direction, don’t drag them by the collar towards what you see best.  As a matter of fact, studies have suggested that children who aren’t hovered over develop into effective problem solvers–a tool that will prove to be crucial in today’s fast-paced society. If they don’t succeed they’ll learn valuable life lessons on how to pick themselves back up again.

It will make you a better parent

Believe it or not, your emotional wellbeing rubs off on your children. According to a study conducted by the American Psychological Association, 39 percent of children reported that a parent’s stress makes them sad and worried. Instead of smothering them, try taking time out for yourself. After you feel rejuvenated you’ll be a happier and healthier parent.

Strengthen the relationship

When you bombard your teens with overprotective hovering, they tend to shy away from sharing time with you. Give them some space and who knows? Maybe you’ll be able to try that cooking class you’ve been talking about.

Stress isn’t helping your health

The stress from constantly worrying can wear on you. According to Dr. Robyn Silverman, many parents nowadays view their child’s success or defeat as a reflection on their parenting, which can result in self-doubt and depression.

Turn the tables

Do you honestly want to be in your 40s and 50s and still raising and parenting an adult child? If they were given skills to succeed as a child, maybe they will be successful enough to be taking care of you someday.

So maybe it is time to let them grow by finally letting go. Allowing children the freedom to make mistakes, giving them an opportunity to mature and develop, and simultaneously enabling yourself some well deserved relaxation, results in a win-win. And after all, that’s what parenting is all about–raising children to be intelligent and self reliant adults.

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