“He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.”
~ Benjamin Franklin
A lot of us continually make excuses as to why we can’t have the life we want. To live successfully we need to “leave the buts behind, or they will only get bigger”. Every excuse you make prepares you for yet another one and serves only to delay your success.
Excuses allow you to forget or pretend that you are not responsible for your success or failure. The important first step in this principle is to begin to accept that your life is the way it is because of you. You are responsible for your happiness and success. And you are responsible if you hate your life and are unsuccessful. Excuses only serve to allow you to duck responsibility.
When you recognize that your life is in your own hands and you can determine whether you succeed or fail, you give yourself power to choose and competence to take action. You have more self-respect when you take full responsibility for things that happen to you in your life.
Some people act as though their life is like that toy, the Rubik’s Cube. The cube starts off perfectly aligned and balanced when you take it out of its package, but, like our lives, we can mess it up quickly. In no time at all you turn it left, then right, up, and then down-and before you know it, the cube is a mismatch of colors-and you have no idea how it got that way or how to get it back into alignment. Life can be like that. We move in various directions, often not evaluating our actions and choices. Good decisions make us happy; for bad decisions we make excuses, rationalize, and blame others. This behavior is a dead end for success.
What “but” do you need to leave behind?
I really want to drop 20 pounds “but” it’s just genetic for me to be heavy. I wanted to go to the event “but” I just got too busy. I really wish I were out of debt “but” I just can’t save money. These excuses will undermine a person’s character and self-esteem. The more you make excuses, the larger the excuses get. At first it might be an excuse for being late such as I would have been on time to work “but” there was heavy traffic. With more practice using “but” it soon turns into I hate my job and would have changed careers, “but” I’m just too old, not qualified, not certified, etc. Don’t underestimate the power of “but”-it can halt success instantly. Live your dreams by getting the “buts” out of your life.